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Have You Lost Control of Your Bladder?

One of the most embarrassing aspects of menopause is the development of urinary tract symptoms as a result of hormonal changes.  This can have a significant impact on your quality of life unless you know what to expect and how to deal with these issues effectively.

Have you lost control of your bladder?  If so, what should you watch for?  Here are the most common bladder issues women in menopause deal with:

  •  Lack of control over urination (incontinence)
  • Lack of control due to a laugh, sneeze or cough, for example (stress incontinence)
  • Lack of control due to the bladder being full (urge incontinence)
  • Overactive bladder (OAB)
  • Urinary tract infections (UTIs)

All of these can be triggered by the diminishing estrogen levels in your body causing changes to your vaginal tissues. Due to the position of the urethra in relation to the vagina and bladder, you can become more prone to urinary or vaginal infections. Loss of tissue tone, like skin tone in the rest of your body (as demonstrated by sagging, for example), may contribute to urinary incontinence.

Now that we know the main symptoms to look out for and what causes them, what natural remedies can help?

It is important to stay hydrated.  However some liquids can be irritating to the bladder and decrease your bladder control.  Irritating liquids can include:  caffeinated drinks such as coffee, tea, and diet or regular soda.

Instead opt for fresh water and eat more soups and stews to add liquid to your diet and nutrition at the same time.

Avoid drinking a lot of liquid before bed so you are not disturbed in the middle of the night and are less likely to leak during the night. Go to the bathroom before bed.

Practice bladder training 
Bladder training can take some time, but it is effective for all forms of incontinence. You train your muscles and bladder to hold urine for longer. While training, use incontinence pads and garments as needed to avoid any little accidents.

Over Active Bladder (OAB)
OAB can be a real nuisance.  Do you find yourself basing your activities around being able to get to a bathroom easily? Fortunately, there are many effective lifestyle measures that can help:

  • Exercise, including
    • abdominal strength training
    • Kegel exercises (pelvic floor muscle training)
  • Weight control-the more excess weight you carry, the greater your risk of suffering from OAB.
  • Avoid alcohol
  • Avoid acidic foods
  • Smoking cessation
  • Consume a health diet that includes things that support a health bladder such as:  unsweetened cranberry juice or a cranberry extract and probiotics.

Urinary Tract Infections (UTI)

Many of the things that can help OAB can help with UTIs. In addition, try:

  • Wearing cotton, not synthetic, underwear
  • Avoiding perfumed pads
  • Avoiding douching
  • Not holding urine too long
  • Wipe from front to back

Having healthy vaginal issue can further help reduce menopause related bladder issues.  Julva is a wonderful product that may help and was developed by Dr. Anna Cabeca.  To learn more about Julva, click here now.

Now that you know what to do about the most common urinary symptoms of perimenopause and menopause, you should start to lead a fuller life where the first thing you do is not to have to spot the bathroom everywhere you go.

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Does Menopause Have You Feeling More Emotional?

As you know, menopause is a time of great hormonal fluctuations. During perimenopause, the years just before the periods finally stop; your hormone levels can fluctuate a lot.  This can lead to emotional upheaval that can last for several years.  This can be very distressing for you but also those around you.

What is going on!

During menopause and in the perimenopausal years, the estrogen levels gradually decrease and the ovaries put out less progesterone. This results in a rise in FSH and LH, which can be measured as part of the diagnosis of menopause although “menopause” is a clinical diagnosis, meaning that it is declared “menopause” when a woman has not had a period for more than a year. The cause of menopause is primary ovarian failure. The ovaries simply run out of eggs and do not produce the same amount of gonadal hormones as were made during the fertile years.  All these hormone changes can make you feel like you are on an emotional roller coaster ride.  

Emotional Impact Of Time Gone By

For some women, the emotional impact of menopause stems from the simple fact of getting older and seeing the changes happening in their body.  Some women have real issues with age, and menopause is a landmark time that typically marks the end of middle age.  Seeing the changes taking place in your body can be frustrating and scary.

Emotional Impact Related To Womanhood

For some women, menopause may trigger feelings of depression and sadness because a lot of their personal identity in womanhood is tied up in being able to bear children. There are also those women who may have not had a chance yet to bear children or as many as they wanted to or planned to which lends itself to feelings of sadness, anger, grief and loss.

Emotional Impact From Hormonal Fluctuations

There is lots of reasons you can feel more emotional in menopause.  Hormone fluctuations have a direct affect on the neurotransmitters in your brain. Low levels of serotonin and norepinephrine, for example, can be found in menopausal. These low levels contribute to feelings of depression and irritability. Women are more likely to suffer from an episode of major depression during these years.  It is not uncommon to see many women put on an anti-depressant, sleeping pills, or anxiety medication.  There is a time and place for this, but what if you could find a way to balance your hormone or ease the hormone fluctuations?

There are programs and trained health practitioners that can help.  You may also looking into various supplements that can help support your hormones and your emotions in menopause.  One of my top recommendations for this is Mighty Maca.  I have found it can help mood, libido, and energy.  The feedback from the women I treat has been amazing.  I often hear, “I love it”!  “I will never stop taking it”!  It was developed by gynecologist, Dr. Anna Cabeca when she was trying to treat her own hormone imbalances.  If you want to learn more about Mighty Maca:  Click Here!

What are other reasons you might be feeling more emotional in menopause?

A Time Of Loss

Menopause is also a time of loss. It is during this time when many women are having personal upheavals in their lives, such as the loss of children who have grown and have moved away from home, the changing face of relationships, and the coming of older age. You may be considering a change in careers.  These things can cause anxiety, irritability, agitation, and depression in women who otherwise would be able to handle these life changes.

Health Problems That Effect Motions

The menopausal years are also peak times for women to suffer from health problems that can affect their emotions. Hypothyroidism can occur during these years and many women deal with things like breast cancer and other health crises.

Improving The Emotional Outlook

So how do you begin to cope with these emotional changes—both biochemical and environmental?  You can start by taking a look at your diet.  Food is Medicine after all.  Eating healthier foods such as organic whole fruits, vegetables, and healthy fats and protein are essential to supporting your mood and your hormones.  Exercise helps to preserve muscle and bone mass.  It also increases endorphins, which affect mood.

You are never too old to begin something new such as starting a walking program or doing things like yoga or aerobic swimming classes. Riding a bike for half an hour a day can bring about a better mood and improved outlook on life.

Even adding a hobby can improve your outlook and lift depressive symptoms in menopause. Women who have social hobbies tend to feel better than those who have isolative hobbies but actually, having any kind of hobby will improve mood and increase well-being. Exercise may even improve the sleep disturbances seen in menopause.

Because women are at higher risk for heart disease and bone loss after menopause, this is the time when exercise. Emotional improvement can be seen with exercise as much as physical improvement.

Staying social can help you cope with the changing of emotions. This means finding and having friendships with other women and keeping up a healthy relationship with one’s loved ones. Simply keeping a good social calendar can combat feelings of loneliness, hopelessness, and depression so often seen at this time of a woman’s life.

For those with deep seeded depression, and sadness, professional therapy is always a good option, especially when depression begins to effect quality of life and persists into a long term situation.

The bottom line is, it is normal to feel more emotional in menopause.  Yes, it is not pleasant.  No, you are not going crazy.  If you want to get the love and support of other women in menopause, we would love to have you join us over at the Menopause Sisterhood Facebook Group!

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Are your menopausal mood swings ruining your life?

Are your menopausal mood swings ruining your life?

This is what many women feel.  I know, because I have treated a lot of these women.

Most women believe that menopause only means you’ll have hot flashes and night sweats. However, did you know that mood swings are a real problem for many peri-menopausal and menopausal women?

This is such a big issue that on March 25th in the Menopause Sisterhood Facebook Group you can catch the replay of the Menopause Sisters talking about depression in menopause.  If you missed it you can listen to it here:

Menopause Sisterhood Facebook Group

If you are suffering from mood swings, I don’t have to tell you that fluctuating hormones are the cause of this emotional turmoil and while severity will vary from woman to woman, it is not uncommon for women to start crying or go into a rage for no apparent reason.

Are you experiencing any of the following:  

  • Lack of motivation
  • Feelings of sadness or tearfulness
  • Irritability
  • Aggressiveness
  • Anxiety
  • Fatigue
  • Problems concentrating
  • Changes in mood, sometimes drastic and unexplainable
  • Increased tension

Are you wondering how to cope with these mood swings so you don’t feel like they are ruining your life? 


  • De-stress your life. You need to take a look at those things that cause you the most stress and do what things you can in order to have as little stress in your life as possible. It may mean handling financial stressors, changing jobs, and managing relationships that are stressful to you.  Let go of those things that no longer serve you.  Learn to say no.
  • Exercise and get into a healthy diet. Healthy nutrition and exercise can help improve your mood and may prevent the need for taking medication.
  • Stay away from alcohol and tranqulizers. These things are depressive agents so that you actually worsen your mood swings by taking them, especially if you use them on a regular basis.
  • Keep a connection with your community and family members.These things can give you something to do besides feel bad and make for a longer, healthier life.  This is provided these are healthy relationships for you.
  • Find a creative resource that helps you feel as though you are achieving something. If you have no hobbies or avocations, this is the time to find those that can improve your quality of life. It can be any hobby that interests you and that can help you feel less moody.
  • Keep your friends close to you. People that maintain and nurture friendships can live longer and can have an improved quality of life.
  • Treat yourself. Many women feel overwhelmed in menopause and this adds to the mood swings and irritability.  Take a day for pampering yourself.  Go for a massage, lunch with a friend, or join a yoga class.  Do something that brings you joy as this may help to lessen the overwhelming feeling of not having time for yourself.  Make the time.
  • Get plenty of sleep. A big part of the mood swings in menopause is related to a lack of quality sleep. Studies out of the University of Pennsylvania have indicated that sleep deprivation can make you more susceptible to menopausal symptoms. Use good sleep hygiene by sleeping in a dark room and using your bed for only sex and sleeping. Don’t take stimulant or eat large meals just before going to bed.
  • Herbal Supplements. Sometime reaching for an herbal remedy may be in order.  For anxiety, try a little l-theanine.  In some cases you may need to seek help from your health practitioner.  So the tips here are not a replacement for that when warranted.
  • Decrease caffeine intake. Caffeine is a stimulant substance that can increase moodiness and jitteriness.

Mood swings in menopause are not a myth. There are definite changes in your emotional resources during menopause that can be helped through changes to your lifestyle.  Mood swings are very common in menopause.

Over at the Menopause Sisterhood Facebook Group there is a whole community of women there to support you.  If you have questions or tips you want to share, I would encourage you to do so there.  If you are not a member, ask to join.